How to gain my favor.

If you find yourself craving my approval you can:

  • Indulge Me:

    • Buy or send me flowers. My favorite Minneapolis florist is Studio C Florals which can deliver to my play space address or, if you do not yet know my play space address, you can send me flowers off of my tribute list.

    • Send me gifts off my tribute list.

    • Arrive to our in person appointments with a card, flowers, treats (vegan chocolate, vegan pastries, exotic fruit, candied orange peel, candied ginger, etc), or other small gifts.

    • Write me a handwritten thank you note or a letter expressing your devotion.

    • My birthday month is March, a great time to get me extra treats and tips.

  • Tribute:

    • Tip me via CashApp

      • Tipping is not just about money, but is a good way to show me that you value my time and energy. It’s a basic way to say thank you.

      • Tipping is appreciated any time you ask for my time, be that a particularly long email, a request for emotional support post scene, or a request for a type of scene requiring extra prep.

      • Honestly, I care less how much you tip and much more that you tip as it acknowledges the work I’m putting in. $10 is fine.

    • Donate money on my behalf to SWOP Minneapolis

  • Communication:

    • Carefully read my communications to you, especially documents. 

    • Proton Mail is the most secure option for communication. Having a Proton Mail email shows me you care about my security and longevity. Do not use any other channel to discuss rates/booking.

    • Make your emails succinct but thorough.

    • Make all communication polite, straightforward, and clear.

    • Ask questions if you’re confused or unsure.

    • Reflect on and communicate to me what you liked most about our recent play, if there is anything you didn’t like, and what you might want next.

    • Book early.

    • Book packages.

    • Pay promptly.

    • Know and disclose your limits.

    • Send thank you notes or otherwise regularly express your gratitude for my dominance.

  • Health:

    • Get vaccinated for Monkey Pox.

    • Get the latest COVID-19 booster that you are eligible for.

    • Get a Flu vaccine.

  • Personal and submissive development:

    • Learn submissive skills/engage in self training:

      • Make me a list of any submissive skills you already have.

      • Learn body service skills (hand, scalp, foot, back, or neck massage, mani/pedi, home facial, etc) via YouTube video or other sources.

      • Take kink workshops (check out Wicked Grounds, OhYesPlease, and The Ritual Chamber’s events pages).

    • Have personal reflective spaces like therapy, scheduled times with close friends, or keeping a journal to work on your mental and emotional development.

    • Take the five love languages quiz so I can reward you well (or otherwise reflect on and communicate how you like to be rewarded for your service).

    • Take the SES/SIS inventory questionnaire.

    • Meditate, especially mindfulness, self compassion, and loving kindness.

    • Read: 

      • Liberated to the Bone by Susan Raffo

      • My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem

      • Care Work by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha

      • Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski

  • Misc:

    • Interact with me on Twitter.

    • Send me content I can post on my social media or website (reviews, faceless selfies, scene aftermath pics, hand written notes of devotion, etc).