We will do aftercare during our appointment (usually starting about 15 minutes before the end of your appointment and extending around 15 minutes after your appointment if needed), but this may not be sufficient for your needs. You will likely need to continue aftercare at home.

• If you expect you will need more aftercare, let me know beforehand so I can plan to start earlier.

• If you have specific aftercare needs, please let me know. Generally my aftercare includes offering a shower, light snacks, water, resting, and gentle touch.

Bringing an aftercare kit (favorite snacks, favorite non-alcoholic beverages, herbal teabags, soft clothing/stuffed animals/pillows, a calming playlist, etc) is encouraged.

Plan to take it easy the rest of the day/evening. Eating a healthy/filling meal, taking a multivitamin, drinking water or electrolyte drinks, taking acetaminophen or ibuprofen, gentle stretching or self massage, and a good night’s sleep can help prevent unfun post-scene pain and sub drop. Plan to take care of yourself like you would after running a 5k.

I do not recommend doing mentally or emotionally strenuous activities after a scene. Make time to enjoy the afterglow.

Some submissives become brain foggy, euphoric, uncoordinated, or clumsy after a scene. On rare occasions, some struggle to drive safely after scenes. I suggest you make a plan for how you will get home safely if you can’t drive, especially if this is your first real time in person scene.

Please engage mindfully with drugs, THC, alcohol, and caffeine. Mood altering drugs, including THC and alcohol, are not allowed in my play space, but of course you can do what you want when you get home. Keep in mind that alcohol and caffeine can be dehydrating. Some people find these useful tools to ease out of scene headspace, but keep in mind that they can be habit forming and, especially for caffeine and alcohol, they may just be pushing your drop off a few hours but making it harder.

Sub drop is real. You may experience sudden, intense, or overwhelming emotions in the hours or days after a scene. These can include shame, loneliness, sadness, overwhelm, or irritability. Physical/mental symptoms can include exhaustion, brain fog, tremors, and others. Please know that this is normal and not necessarily a sign that something is wrong.

• I am generally available to help process or affirm post scene emotions by email or text. If this becomes an ongoing or intense need, you may want to book a video call coaching session ($65) a day after your scene or we can negotiate a rate for text support (for those not already paying for texting). Please keep in mind I am not licensed to do therapy and any emotional support I provide is peer to peer.

• Sub drop can be eased by good aftercare, as mentioned above. Rest, water, comforting media, comforting and filling food, and sleep can all help. Sometimes sub drop can’t be avoided.

• Intense sub drop can sometimes be (but is not always) an indication that something in the scene was off. Set aside time to reflect on if anything in the scene was triggering.

• If playing with emotionally intense subjects (gender/sexuality exploration, cnc, etc), expect a more intense sub drop.

• If you are in crisis I recommend the Walk-In Counseling Center, the National Suicide Hotline (dial 9-8-8), and Trans Lifeline (dial 877-565-8860). Please note: only Trans Lifeline has a no active rescue without consent policy and it is only available to transgender and questioning people.

If you’d like to commission a custom aftercare audio recording, please inquire. This can be a good option if hearing praise or hearing my voice helps and you want something you can use repeatedly. Listening to guided meditations, especially body scans can be helpful for getting grounded.

Aftercare for virtual scenes has many of the same considerations as in-person scenes, though scenes are typically less physically intense than in person scenes and you’ll typically need to do more aftercare on your own. Please make space to take care of yourself; you can think of it as another opportunity to serve me.

• Without the opportunity for gentle physical touch from me, perhaps offer yourself gentle physical touch or use soft and warm clothing, warm blankets, a heating pad, or warm beverages for some of the same physiological affects.

I try to check in on subs about 24-48 hours after scenes as an opportunity to debrief or for drop support, but again, feel free to reach out. The endorphins and stress hormones of a scene can take up to 48 hours to settle in your body.